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14 Years without T.J.
“The Emotional Muscles of Grief Theory (Cacciatore, 2010) posits that grief is not something that diminishes over time but instead...
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T.J.’s 30th Birthday
How can it be that the boy who shattered us with his death at 16 would now be a man of 30 years? So many lost years, so many lost hours,...
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T.J.'s 29th Birthday
September 23, 2010 was T.J.’s last birthday here on earth. I wonder what he was wishing for as he blew out his birthday candles for the...
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12 Years. . .Before and After
December 1st. 12 years since that fateful day where my life moved from before to after. Before T.J. died. After T.J. died. And the before...
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Preventing Youth Suicide with Remembering TJ as featured on Milestone Marketing
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Matt Sefcik Shares his Story of Loss, Mental Health Challenges and being a College Athlete
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Holiday Cheer Can Bring Holiday Tears
December 1st is once again looming before me. December 1st will mark 11 years since T.J. left this earth. My heart is heavy. I feel the...
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Remembering the JOY On T.J.'s Birthday
This week a very dear friend gave birth to a precious baby boy. My heart filled with JOY at the news and since this was T.J.’s birthday...
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10 Years Without T.J.
Today marks 10 years since T.J. took his life on a cold, dark December evening. 10 years. . .a decade. The dictionary defines a decade as...
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Thanksgiving Thoughts: Grateful for Perfect Vision
2020 is a year most will not soon forget. For many it has been a year of challenges. I have been working hard to stay in the moment and...