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Milestones in the Shadow of Loss
On a December morning 8 years ago, my 16-year-old son T.J. died by suicide. T.J. was the middle of our three sons. He left behind 2...
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T.J. was not a tragedy. . .
I was reading a book titled, When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi. Sadly, Paul died at 36 of cancer. In the book’s epilogue, his...
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The Gifts that Matter
6 years ago today our precious T.J.’s body left this earth. 6 years later I know that T.J.’s essence and energy are still with us. The...
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4 years...4 years...4 years...4 years
Today marks 4 years since T.J. left this earth. Today marks 4 years since T.J. died by suicide. His death has left a void so vast there...